There’s no doubt that marriage can be really hard sometimes.
I like to talk about how marriage should make you holy more than happy. Facing and overcoming difficult times in your marriage can do a lot to help you develop godly character.
But marriage doesn’t always have to be hard. In fact, it shouldn’t be. I believe that marriage should make you both happy and holy, with a little more emphasis on the holy. And you can grow a lot from your marriage even when things aren’t hard, so the two aren’t mutually exclusive.
Unfortunately, a lot of what makes marriage hard for some people isn’t the big ticket issues, it’s a bunch of little stuff that piles up together and makes things seem worse than they really are.