Happy New Year!
It’s that time when bloggers around the world write list posts about how to make 2015 the best year ever.
I thought I’d follow suit with my own list post of 15 ways to rock your marriage in 2015.
- Develop a habit of gratitude: One of the best things you can do for your marriage is to develop a habit of being grateful for your spouse. Find a few reasons each day to be thankful for your spouse, and make sure to actually thank him or her out loud.
- Be generous: Generously loving your spouse, and generously meeting his or her core needs is vital to a healthy marriage. It really is better to give than to receive.
- Be selfish: I know this sounds contradictory to the last item, but it isn’t. Healthy couples recognize that they have needs, desires, and expectations of each other, and they don’t feel guilty about asking each other to fulfill those needs. Don’t be afraid to ask your spouse to do things for you.
- Pray together: Make it a point to pray with your spouse often.
- Go to church together: You’ve heard those statistics that the divorce rate in the church is the same outside the church, right? Turns out those statistics were never real (a distortion based on a misunderstanding). Going to church actually does make a difference in your marriage.
- Be social: Smart couples realize they can’t do things all on their own. They get involved with family, friends, church groups, and other social groups to get some much needed fellowship and support.
- Get involved: Find ways to get involved in meaningful causes that you believe in. My wife and I support a child through Compassion International. Maybe you can volunteer in your community or give money to a good cause?
- Get naked: Sex and physical intimacy are vital to marriage. So set aside time to enjoy each other.
- Go out: Go on regular dates. Or stay in for at home dates. This can be as simple as going for a walk or watching a movie together after the kids go to bed.
- Be positive: Having a positive attitude about your spouse, your marriage, and yourself is a key to having a happy marriage.
- Learn a new language: Learning to speak your spouse’s love language can make a huge difference in your relationship.
- Be adventurous: Most couples are busy with boring routine. Break out of the norm every once in a while. Explore the great outdoors. Go for a drive to nowhere in particular. Get a a little more adventurous in the bedroom.
- Play a game: Couples who play together, stay together. Play a game together. Video games, board games, and sex games are all fair play. My wife prefers Scrabble and Battleship.
- Write more: Sending love letters may be old fashioned, but it’s still a great way to add romance and intimacy to your relationship. Or try the modern version of sending romantic texts.
- Focus on the little things: It’s the little thing that make the biggest difference in a marriage. The small actions you can take each day to build friendship, trust, and intimacy. Big events like a vacation fizzle out quickly, but doing small acts of kindness for your spouse each day will reap long-term rewards.
On top of these, I’ve also released a free report on 3 simple keys to create passion and intimacy in your marriage. Download it here.