Do you and your spouse have big dreams as a couple?
I think this is something that my wife Kelli and I have been missing in our marriage until recently. I think that having big dreams feels a bit pretentious to most Christians. It’s easy to feel guilty because we think these dreams make us arrogant and selfish.
And pursuing my dreams is scary! What if I fail? What if I put all this hard work in and don’t get any results?
Recently Kelli and I have started allowing ourselves to start dreaming together again. We’ve been sharing our dreams and talking about how we can achieve them. I’d like to share some of our dreams with you, and then give you some steps that you can use to reach for your own dreams.
- Supporting our family from home. We have 3 kids, and 2 of them were diagnosed with autism earlier this year. Also, I have little patience for office politics, and I’ve always been more family minded than career minded. We would both like to be able to work from home to support our family.
- We want to help other Christian couples and families grow stronger in their relationships and their faith. This blog is a big part of that goal.
- We want to help other families learn to achieve financial independence by working from home.
- We want to go on a honeymoon. We never had one.
- Get out of debt.
- We’ve talked of places we’d like to go for vacations.
- We want to point others toward Christ.
Achieving these dreams may not be easy, but we agree that the reward will be worth the effort we put into it. And even if we don’t reach these goals, the process will help us grow as individuals and as a couple.
Here are 5 steps we will be using as we reach for these goals. These same steps will help you reach your own goals as well.
- Discuss your dreams with each other. I recommend revisiting your goals at least weekly. This will help them stay fresh in your minds and will give you opportunities to brainstorms plans to reach these goals. More importantly, discuss your WHY. Why are you pursuing these dreams? Why is a very powerful motivator. Our why is our faith, our marriage, and our kids.
- Learn about the process of achieving your dream. Depending on your dream, you might need to learn new skills or processes for reaching your goals. For instance, our goal of working from home will require us to learn about business, marketing, etc. But it’ very important you don’t lock yourself into this step. It’s easy to keep learning and learning until you feel like you have everything figured out. This leads to what is often called “information overload”. Which leads us to the next step.
- Make a plan and take action on what you’re learning. Once you figure out the basics of how to achieve your goals, it’s time to make a plan and start taking action. In order to avoid information overload, focus on a little at a bit. Learn the first thing you need to do. Then do it. Then learn the next step, and do it. And so on.
- Eliminate distractions. Most people are overly distracted. We spend so much time doing things that don’t really matter that it’s easy to look back on your day and wonder where it went. To achieve your dreams, you’ll need to be intentional about the time and energy you spend on other things.
- Don’t give up. You’ll fail many times before you reach your goals. You’ll be tempted to give up. You’ll think that your dreams are impossible to reach, or that the effort isn’t worth it. Don’t give up. Keep going. Adjust your plans if you need to.
If you follow these 5 steps chances are pretty good chances of achieving your dreams.
Next, I want to let you know about an opportunity. My wife recently became an independent distributor for It Works Global. We want you to join her team. We will provide training and mentorship to help you become financially independent, working from home. You can click here to learn more and enroll. Or you can contact me for more information.