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14 November 2015 ~ 0 Comments

6 Signs of a Happy and Healthy Marriage

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Every marriage faces its share of troubles. Happy marriages are no exception. Arguments, money problems, and drifting apart due to the busyness of daily life are just a few of the struggles that couples face.

These challenges can make it difficult to keep a marriage strong. But these 6 signs can act as guideposts on the road to a happier, healthier marriage.

  1. You Have Fun Together

John Gottman writes about  the importance of what he calls the “fondness and affection system” in his bestselling book, “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work”. This is a fancy way of talking about the quality of the friendship between you and your spouse. […]

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08 October 2015 ~ 0 Comments

5 Keys to Achieve Your Dreams As a Couple

sea-sunset-beach-coupleDo you and your spouse have big dreams as a couple?

I think this is something that my wife Kelli and I have been missing in our marriage until recently. I think that having big dreams feels a bit pretentious to most Christians. It’s easy to feel guilty because we think these dreams make us arrogant and selfish.

And pursuing my dreams is scary! What if I fail? What if I put all this hard work in and don’t get any results? […]

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23 September 2015 ~ 3 Comments

5 Things To Do Everyday to be an Awesome Husband

food-couple-sweet-marriedI try to be the best husband I can to my wife. Believe it or not, this isn’t very complicated. Sometimes it isn’t easy, but it’s not rocket science. Some men think that being an awesome husband requires wooing their wife with epic romance, like something you might read in a Nicholas Sparks or Danielle Steele novel.[tweetthis display_mode=”button_link”]Some men think that being an awesome husband requires wooing their wife with epic romance.[/tweetthis]

Hey, surprising your wife with a romantic date ending in her finding a trail of rose petals leading to bed might be a nice gesture, but true romance is the little things you day to make your wife feel loved and appreciated.[tweetthis display_mode=”button_link”]true romance is the little things you day to make your wife feel loved and appreciated.[/tweetthis]. The big sweeping gestures are soon fade to nothing more than a fond memory.

To be an awesome husband, focus on those small things you can do each day.[tweetthis display_mode=”button_link”]To be an awesome husband, focus on those small things you can do each day.[/tweetthis]. Here’s 5 ideas to get you started: […]

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19 March 2015 ~ 1 Comment

9 Ways I Struggle to Keep God at the Center of My Marriage

HandsDo you ever struggle to keep God at the center of your marriage?

I know I do. I love God and always want to keep Him at the center of my marriage and everything I do.

But as good as my intentions are, the reality is that I often push God aside. Not intentionally, but as a result of letting other things distract me from what is really important.

And the Bible promises us that God will take care of those who put Him first. The more I make my marriage about God instead of myself, the more successful my marriage will be.

So here is a list of 9 key things I struggle with, but will be focusing on improving to keep God at the center of my marriage. […]

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29 January 2015 ~ 2 Comments

7 “Secrets” to Improve Your Marriage QUICKLY

I’m going to share 7 “secrets” to quickly improve your marriage.

You might be thinking: “These tips won’t work for MY marriage. It’s hopeless.”

But I’m going to show you why these strategies work for almost any marriage…

No matter what circumstances you are currently facing.

Because using these tips will allow you to change your circumstances, or grow from them. Even if they suck.

And none of these are actually secrets. But are you actually putting these tips to good work in your marriage?

I have to admit that I sometimes fail at all these areas myself. So I’m committing myself to to doing a better job with my wife, starting right now. […]

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26 January 2015 ~ 5 Comments

5 Things I Would Say About Sex if I Had No Filter

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I recently read this post By Julie about 9 things she would say about sex if she had no filter.

I decided to borrow her headline idea and create my own post on the subject. So here’s my list of things I would say about sex:

1. I love  sex (with my wife), and I’m proud of it:

As a Christian, I believe that great sex is a part of God’s design for marriage. So yes, I love sex and I’m proud of it.

But that wasn’t always the case.

I mean yes, I’ve always loved sex with my wife, but there was a time I was ashamed of my sexuality. I was raised in the Church, which taught me to avoid all things sexual like the plague. Sex was dirty, wrong, and shameful.

I was taught that sex is carnal, and therefore unspiritual.


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01 January 2015 ~ 7 Comments

15 Tips To Rock Your Marriage in 2015

2015Happy New Year!

It’s that time when bloggers around the world write list posts about how to make 2015 the best year ever.

I thought I’d follow suit with my own list post of 15 ways to rock your marriage in 2015.

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10 July 2014 ~ 0 Comments

Should Marriage Be Hard?

broken heartThere’s no doubt that marriage can be really hard sometimes.

I like to talk about how marriage should make you holy more than happy. Facing and overcoming difficult times in your marriage can do a lot to help you develop godly character.

But marriage doesn’t always have to be hard. In fact, it shouldn’t be. I believe that marriage should make you both happy and holy, with a little more emphasis on the holy. And you can grow a lot from your marriage even when things aren’t hard, so the two aren’t mutually exclusive.

Unfortunately, a lot of what makes marriage hard for some people isn’t the big ticket issues, it’s a bunch of  little stuff that piles up together and makes things seem worse  than they really are.


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09 July 2014 ~ 1 Comment

Headed for Divorce? Here’s How To Have A Happy Marriage Again

angry coupleAre you in an unhappy marriage?

Maybe you are on the verge of divorce, or you’re not quite there yet but worried that you’re headed in that direction. You may be discouraged by statistics that claim that 50% of marriages end in divorce and that there is barely any difference in the divorce rate for those who are in the church. It seems almost inevitable that you will end up as a part of those statistics. How can you possibly beat the odds?

I have good news for you.


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26 May 2014 ~ 6 Comments

“Life is Short. Have an Affair” (With Your Spouse)

love affairI often check the spam folder on my email because every once in a while (like 3 times a year) I find something in there that I actually want.

One email I often see (that I definitely don’t want) has this headline:

“Life is short. Have an Affair”

Yeah, because apparently I’m not living my life because I’m only having sex with my wife.

Because if I’m “restricted” to only having sex with one person I must not be experiencing the full variety of sexual pleasure this life has to offer.

Because having passionate sex with the woman I love, the woman who promised to love me for the rest of  my life, who bore my 3 children…

Apparently that isn’t good enough.

In order to really live my life, I need to pay some site money to have awkward, unemotional sex with some random stranger.

I need to expose myself, my wife, and our breastfed baby to the dangers of STDs.

I need to risk tearing my family apart, destroying my wife’s sense of self worth, and creating a hostile home environment that would do unrepairable damage to my kids, all for a cheap thrill.

No thanks. […]

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