Archive | Christian Marriage Advice For Men

14 November 2015 ~ 0 Comments

6 Signs of a Happy and Healthy Marriage

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Every marriage faces its share of troubles. Happy marriages are no exception. Arguments, money problems, and drifting apart due to the busyness of daily life are just a few of the struggles that couples face.

These challenges can make it difficult to keep a marriage strong. But these 6 signs can act as guideposts on the road to a happier, healthier marriage.

  1. You Have Fun Together

John Gottman writes about  the importance of what he calls the “fondness and affection system” in his bestselling book, “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work”. This is a fancy way of talking about the quality of the friendship between you and your spouse. […]

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23 September 2015 ~ 3 Comments

5 Things To Do Everyday to be an Awesome Husband

food-couple-sweet-marriedI try to be the best husband I can to my wife. Believe it or not, this isn’t very complicated. Sometimes it isn’t easy, but it’s not rocket science. Some men think that being an awesome husband requires wooing their wife with epic romance, like something you might read in a Nicholas Sparks or Danielle Steele novel.[tweetthis display_mode=”button_link”]Some men think that being an awesome husband requires wooing their wife with epic romance.[/tweetthis]

Hey, surprising your wife with a romantic date ending in her finding a trail of rose petals leading to bed might be a nice gesture, but true romance is the little things you day to make your wife feel loved and appreciated.[tweetthis display_mode=”button_link”]true romance is the little things you day to make your wife feel loved and appreciated.[/tweetthis]. The big sweeping gestures are soon fade to nothing more than a fond memory.

To be an awesome husband, focus on those small things you can do each day.[tweetthis display_mode=”button_link”]To be an awesome husband, focus on those small things you can do each day.[/tweetthis]. Here’s 5 ideas to get you started: […]

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01 January 2015 ~ 7 Comments

15 Tips To Rock Your Marriage in 2015

2015Happy New Year!

It’s that time when bloggers around the world write list posts about how to make 2015 the best year ever.

I thought I’d follow suit with my own list post of 15 ways to rock your marriage in 2015.

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10 July 2014 ~ 0 Comments

Should Marriage Be Hard?

broken heartThere’s no doubt that marriage can be really hard sometimes.

I like to talk about how marriage should make you holy more than happy. Facing and overcoming difficult times in your marriage can do a lot to help you develop godly character.

But marriage doesn’t always have to be hard. In fact, it shouldn’t be. I believe that marriage should make you both happy and holy, with a little more emphasis on the holy. And you can grow a lot from your marriage even when things aren’t hard, so the two aren’t mutually exclusive.

Unfortunately, a lot of what makes marriage hard for some people isn’t the big ticket issues, it’s a bunch of  little stuff that piles up together and makes things seem worse  than they really are.


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09 July 2014 ~ 1 Comment

Headed for Divorce? Here’s How To Have A Happy Marriage Again

angry coupleAre you in an unhappy marriage?

Maybe you are on the verge of divorce, or you’re not quite there yet but worried that you’re headed in that direction. You may be discouraged by statistics that claim that 50% of marriages end in divorce and that there is barely any difference in the divorce rate for those who are in the church. It seems almost inevitable that you will end up as a part of those statistics. How can you possibly beat the odds?

I have good news for you.


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26 May 2014 ~ 6 Comments

“Life is Short. Have an Affair” (With Your Spouse)

love affairI often check the spam folder on my email because every once in a while (like 3 times a year) I find something in there that I actually want.

One email I often see (that I definitely don’t want) has this headline:

“Life is short. Have an Affair”

Yeah, because apparently I’m not living my life because I’m only having sex with my wife.

Because if I’m “restricted” to only having sex with one person I must not be experiencing the full variety of sexual pleasure this life has to offer.

Because having passionate sex with the woman I love, the woman who promised to love me for the rest of  my life, who bore my 3 children…

Apparently that isn’t good enough.

In order to really live my life, I need to pay some site money to have awkward, unemotional sex with some random stranger.

I need to expose myself, my wife, and our breastfed baby to the dangers of STDs.

I need to risk tearing my family apart, destroying my wife’s sense of self worth, and creating a hostile home environment that would do unrepairable damage to my kids, all for a cheap thrill.

No thanks. […]

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04 May 2014 ~ 3 Comments

27 Ways to Keep the Romance Alive in Marriage

keep romance aliveI recently ran a poll where I asked you to share your ideas to keep the romance alive in marriage. The results are in. Here are 27 ways to be romantic:

Keep a Regular Date Night:

  1. INTRODUCE DATES NIGHTS IDEAS, Not to talk or discuss families or relationships issues!!!! but to just enjoy life and build memories together ( Movies, walks, weekend away, dinner, lunch, supper, game night etc for just the 2 of you).

  2. We do a date night every other Friday then the alternative Friday is family night…weather permitting we do a bonfire.

  3. Keep a once a week date night. It must focus on your relationship and not the things that are day to day life.

  4. A date once a month at the restaurant of your spouse.

  5. Date night that’s still a date when you get home.

Ideas for What to do on a Date: […]

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11 April 2014 ~ 8 Comments

“If You Love Me You’ll Have Sex With Me”

broken heartIt’s a classic ploy teenage boys pull to get their girlfriends to have sex with them.

“C’mon baby, you will if you love me.”

This is completely unloving and manipulative behavior for these teens. Sex is an inappropriate expression of love outside of marriage.

And yet, there is a nugget of truth to these selfish requests.

Sex is a valid and even essential expression of love and commitment within marriage.This is true for both men and women, though I think that men often feel this need more potently.

In many marriages sex is shoved aside, like it is just some fringe benefit of signing the marriage contract.

Or worse, it is treated as something base, carnal and dirty that needs to be kept locked up and let out only when the beast is out of control.


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27 March 2014 ~ 1 Comment

“Don’t Change Me!” – 4 Ways to Inspire Spiritual Growth In Your Spouse

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The other day I was watching one of the polygamy reality shows on TV. I don’t agree with polygamy, but I do think that watching these shows gives an interesting look into a different family and marriage structure.

The husband on the show started a policy of “safe talks” among his wives. Basically, he wanted them to feel safe bringing their issues to each other. If one wife was having problems with another, he wanted the offended wife to feel safe in approaching the offender.

One wife was a bit more vocal than the others and apparently she had accidentally offended some of them. They came to her wanting to have “safe talks” and she felt very judged and felt insecure for having caused the offenses.

So she went to the husband because she didn’t think the policy would work for her. She felt that he was pressuring her to be open to these talks. During the argument she said “Don’t change me!”

This echoes common marriage advice that you can’t and shouldn’t try to change your spouse. I think this is bad advice.


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15 March 2014 ~ 4 Comments

Should Marriage Make You Happy or Holy?

Gary Thomas Quote

“God wants me to be happy and my husband isn’t making me happy, so I’m going to break my marriage vows, cheat on my spouse, then divorce him, destroying my family and that of my lover in the process in the name of happiness and love.”

The above statement is completely ridiculous, of course.

Except that it isn’t. The ridiculous thing is that Christians are having affairs and getting divorced every day, with pretty much this exact rationalization.


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