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14 November 2015 ~ 0 Comments

6 Signs of a Happy and Healthy Marriage

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Every marriage faces its share of troubles. Happy marriages are no exception. Arguments, money problems, and drifting apart due to the busyness of daily life are just a few of the struggles that couples face.

These challenges can make it difficult to keep a marriage strong. But these 6 signs can act as guideposts on the road to a happier, healthier marriage.

  1. You Have Fun Together

John Gottman writes about  the importance of what he calls the “fondness and affection system” in his bestselling book, “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work”. This is a fancy way of talking about the quality of the friendship between you and your spouse. […]

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29 January 2015 ~ 2 Comments

7 “Secrets” to Improve Your Marriage QUICKLY

I’m going to share 7 “secrets” to quickly improve your marriage.

You might be thinking: “These tips won’t work for MY marriage. It’s hopeless.”

But I’m going to show you why these strategies work for almost any marriage…

No matter what circumstances you are currently facing.

Because using these tips will allow you to change your circumstances, or grow from them. Even if they suck.

And none of these are actually secrets. But are you actually putting these tips to good work in your marriage?

I have to admit that I sometimes fail at all these areas myself. So I’m committing myself to to doing a better job with my wife, starting right now. […]

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01 April 2014 ~ 1 Comment

The Proper Care and Feeding of Your Marriage

Marriage GardenThink of your marriage as a garden.

If you’ve ever tried gardening, you know it requires constant attention. You have to provide food, water and sunlight in order for the plants to thrive. You need to pull weeds, handle pests and take care of the soil. A garden will thrive when you intentionally take the time to care for it.

Killing a garden, on the other hand, is easy. You don’t even have to choose to kill it, it will shrivel and wilt on it’s own if you simply don’t choose to tend it.


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01 March 2014 ~ 3 Comments

Married to an Emotional Turtle? How to Coax Him Out of His Shell

Emotional Turtle

Some time ago I wrote a post about how wives can deal with an emotionally distant husband. That post was mostly on how to understand why your husband is so closed off and how to use that knowledge to extend grace. In this post I will share some tips on how you can actually help him open up to you.


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12 February 2014 ~ 1 Comment

What Everyone Gets Wrong About Love and Respect

Love and respect not feelings

I’m a huge believer in the concept of love and respect. I also believe they go both ways, husbands and wives both need love and respect. However, there is one important area where I may not agree with the majority on this subject.

Many people talk about the importance of making your spouse feel loved or respected. I think that they believe it is the duty of a husband to make sure his wife feels loved, and likewise it is the duty of a wife to make her husband feel respected. The problem with this is that it takes headship away from the husband and holds the marriage captive to   emotions.

Even if you believe in mutual submission (which I don’t), headship is not in the hands of the couple or Christ in this scenario. This is because emotions are very difficult to control.

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02 February 2014 ~ 6 Comments

Can You Build A More Intimate Marriage With This One Simple Hack?

Marriage HackToday I want to share a simple hack from the business productivity world that you can use to build deeper intimacy in your marriage.

This hack is known as the Pareto principle, sometimes called the 80/20 rule. In its most basic form, the Pareto principle states that 80 percent of a cause results in 20 percent of an effect (or vice versa). There are many variations to this rule, such as:

  • 80% of books are sold by 20% of authors
  • 80% the wealth is controlled by 20% of the population
  • 80% of marketing results in 20% of sales
  • 80% of your efforts produce 20% of your results

It’s this last one that we want to look at. In business, this means that 80% of what the employees spend their time on isn’t doing much to help the company. Conversely, only 20% of time is spent on tasks that actually get results. Productivity coaches teach executives, managers, and employees to weed out those ineffective tasks and instead focus their time and effort on the other 20% that get 80% of the results.

So how can you apply this simple principle to your marriage?


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16 January 2014 ~ 0 Comments

7 Things Your Wife Needs To Hear You Say This Week

Words of Affirmation

I’m a big believer in the power of your words to improve your marriage.

It is all too easy to forget this power. You can easily get so caught up in the day to day routine that the opportunities to encourage and appreciate your wife can slip away before you know it.

Yet taking a few seconds each day to let your wife know you value her is one of the simplest, most powerful things you can do to strengthen your relationship. It has the amazing ability to warm her heart, make her feel loved and give her a sense of security and confidence in your relationship. […]

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09 September 2013 ~ 2 Comments

The Most Powerful Words In Your Marriage


I’ve said this before, and I’ll keep saying it: Your words have immense power.

Your words, and more importantly the body language and tone of voice that accompanies them, can completely destroy your marriage. Or you can use the power of your words to breathe new life into you relationship.

Here are some of the most powerful words you can use in your marriage today:


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14 August 2012 ~ 18 Comments

Do Husbands Need to Respect Their Wives?

One of the most basic, most fundamental concepts in the Bible for building a strong, godly marriage is the principle of love and respect. We see in Ephesians 5 that God has commanded husbands to love their wives, and likewise for wives to respect their husbands.

It is very difficult, if not impossible, to build an intimate and strong marriage if this principle is not being practiced.


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28 March 2012 ~ 1 Comment

7 Tips To Better Communication With Your Wife (Even If You Feel Clueless)

Do you ever feel clueless when it comes to communicating with your wife? You already know you need to communicate better with her. You are aware of the statistics on how many marriages end in divorce over this issue. But you feel frustrated because you just can’t seem to get it right. Your wife has probably let you know that she needs you to open up to her or communicate more with her. She may have even told you that she feels like there is no emotional connection between you.

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If this is you, rest assured that you are not alone in your struggle. In fact, I understand where you are coming from all too well. What is a godly man to do in this situation?

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