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10 July 2014 ~ 0 Comments

Should Marriage Be Hard?

broken heartThere’s no doubt that marriage can be really hard sometimes.

I like to talk about how marriage should make you holy more than happy. Facing and overcoming difficult times in your marriage can do a lot to help you develop godly character.

But marriage doesn’t always have to be hard. In fact, it shouldn’t be. I believe that marriage should make you both happy and holy, with a little more emphasis on the holy. And you can grow a lot from your marriage even when things aren’t hard, so the two aren’t mutually exclusive.

Unfortunately, a lot of what makes marriage hard for some people isn’t the big ticket issues, it’s a bunch of  little stuff that piles up together and makes things seem worse  than they really are.

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09 July 2014 ~ 1 Comment

Headed for Divorce? Here’s How To Have A Happy Marriage Again

angry coupleAre you in an unhappy marriage?

Maybe you are on the verge of divorce, or you’re not quite there yet but worried that you’re headed in that direction. You may be discouraged by statistics that claim that 50% of marriages end in divorce and that there is barely any difference in the divorce rate for those who are in the church. It seems almost inevitable that you will end up as a part of those statistics. How can you possibly beat the odds?

I have good news for you.

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20 June 2012 ~ 4 Comments

Why We Have Mediocre Marriages

Most of us are living half lives.

We drift through our days without passion or purpose, worrying and fretting over the mundane details of life.

We go through the motions. We attend church. We pray (sometimes) and read our bibles (if we feel like it) and try to be good Christians (usually).

All the while life is passing us by, our chances to embrace our real purpose ebbing away as each day slips away.

We’re bored, and stressed, and busy.

And we’re oh so empty.

But we had a passion once.

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25 March 2012 ~ 2 Comments

Jesus Died to Save Your Marriage

“For the Son of Man has come to seek and to save that which was lost.” (Luke 19:10, NASB)

Jesus came to the Earth to fulfill a very specific purpose, which was to restore us to a right relationship with God. In order to accomplish this, it was necessary for Him to die on the cross, taking our sins upon Himself and bearing God’s wrath against us. Having done this, the Justice of God was satisfied and the way was open for us to return to Him with a clean conscience.

Yet Jesus didn’t come just to redeem us, he came to save all of that which was lost in the Fall of Man. There was much more lost than just a right standing with God. Our whole world was broken. God cursed the very ground so that we would have to work to eat. Our relationships with others were instantly tarnished as well. Adam and Eve could not relate to each other in the same way ever again. The very concept of marriage was ruined.

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19 March 2012 ~ 1 Comment

How Passivity Destroys Marriages

It has been said that apathy is a silent killer. I like to think that passivity is apathy’s ugly twin sister. Together, the twins undermine God’s purpose for your marriage (and your life) by keeping you from waking up and seeing the war that we live in every day.

Jesus Christ came to destroy the works of the enemy, and if you are a Christian He has enlisted you, along with all of your resources (including your marriage, your children, and your career) in this purpose. The Bible is clear that every Christian person has a mission, and that this mission somehow involves both evangelism and discipleship. God has called you to reach the lost and to train His Church to do the same. The passive person will never work to fulfill this purpose, at least not seriously.

And yet this is not the only way in which apathy undermines marriage. Marriage takes work. If you don’t believe this than you have bought into the idea of the fairytale marriage. Sorry, but “happily ever after” is reserved for the next life. You can achieve a great deal of happiness in your marriage in this life, but that requires commitment and effort. Passivity is the antithesis to work.

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02 March 2012 ~ 3 Comments

How to Build a Divorce Proof Marriage

Divorce. What are the thoughts that come to your mind when you hear the word? Do you look back with bitterness and regret at a marriage of yours that ended in divorce? Maybe you think of your parents and how their divorce impacted you? Or perhaps you think of how grateful you are that they managed to stick together. Perhaps you feel a sense of determination to not let it happen to you.

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