One of the best ways to learn what Godly masculinity looks like is to look at the lives of men in the Bible. We can see examples of what these men did right and what they did that was wrong.
In this post I will be taking a look at the life of King David, one of the most masculine men in the whole Bible.
David the Warrior
When he was nothing more than a shepherd boy, David took on bears and lions in order to protect his flock. David implicitly trusted God to give him victory over these beasts.
Later, David faced another beast, the behemoth of a man named Goliath. When David saw that Goliath was mocking Israel’s army he become enraged. David knew that by insulting God’s people, Goliath was actually mocking God Himself. David couldn’t stand for this.
David also saw that all of the soldiers were afraid to face the giant. He couldn’t believe it. God had promised to watch over the Israelites and yet here they were, afraid of a single man.
David trusted in God to protect him. David knew that God cared about His people and would not abandon them and he volunteered to fight Goliath. I love what David says to Goliath right before he kills him:
45 David said to the Philistine, “You come against me with sword and spear and javelin, but I come against you in the name of the Lord Almighty, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied. 46 This day the Lord will deliver you into my hands, and I’ll strike you down and cut off your head. This very day I will give the carcasses of the Philistine army to the birds and the wild animals, and the whole world will know that there is a God in Israel. 47 All those gathered here will know that it is not by sword or spear that the Lord saves; for the battle is the Lord’s, and he will give all of you into our hands.” (1 Sam 17:45-47, NIV)
Them’s fighting words.
Men, how many of us show the same fortitude? How many of us are willing to take radical risks for the glory of God? Do we stand up for what is right when it isn’t popular? Are we willing to be politically incorrect for God?
As men, we were made to be warriors. Our war is a spiritual battle. My challenge to you is to learn how to engage in spiritual warfare.
David the Tender Poet
There’s also another side of David. The Bible describes him as a man after God’s heart. He wrote a big chunk of the Psalms, many of which still influence modern worship music.
I believe that David’s strength and unflinching trust in God were the result of his deep love of God. David was a man who knew emotional intimacy with God, and it pushed him to go further than other men were willing to go. He knew God would protect him because he know God loved him.
Intimacy is a difficult thing for many men to grasp. The concept of “falling in love” with God scares men off. Yet we cannot have true Biblical masculinity unless we pursue a deep and meaningful relationship with God.
The Bible promises that if we draw near to Him, He will draw near to us.
Real men love Jesus.
David the Friend
As Iron sharpens Iron, so one man sharpens another. (Prov 27:17)
Every man need the support, encouragement, and occasional kick in the butt from other godly men. We can’t be successful without other men to push us forward and build us up.
David had a friend like this in Jonathan. They fought side by side in many of their battles and had a pact of friendship between them. When Jonathan’s father, King Saul, turned against David Jonathan remained his loyal friend.
Seek out men who can build you up and help you to grow in your faith. They will help you stay strong when you are facing difficult times.
Where David Went Wrong
You are probably familiar with the story of David and Bathsheba.
David watched her bathing on the roof and lusted after her, so he sent for her and bedded her. She became pregnant, which her husband probably wouldn’t take too kindly to. David arranged to have her husband killed on the front lines of war.
This single event marks the beginning of the end for David’s prosperous reign. From this point on David’s family suffered from extreme dysfunction, including rape, incest, and murder, and plots to overthrow David as king among his children.
The world sees lust as a masculine trait, but the Bible teaches differently. Lust will destroy families, churches, businesses, and will even wreck whole nations. In today’s world of easy access and promiscuity this is a huge problem. If you are struggling with lust, I urge you to seek help before it is too late.
The Real Men Challenge:
- We are in a spiritual war. Fight for what is right.
- Pursue emotional intimacy with God. Worship, reading the Bible, and prayer are all excellent ways of drawing closer to God.
- Seek fellowship and mentorship with other godly men.
- Run from lust.