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25 March 2012 ~ 2 Comments

Jesus Died to Save Your Marriage

“For the Son of Man has come to seek and to save that which was lost.” (Luke 19:10, NASB)

Jesus came to the Earth to fulfill a very specific purpose, which was to restore us to a right relationship with God. In order to accomplish this, it was necessary for Him to die on the cross, taking our sins upon Himself and bearing God’s wrath against us. Having done this, the Justice of God was satisfied and the way was open for us to return to Him with a clean conscience.

Yet Jesus didn’t come just to redeem us, he came to save all of that which was lost in the Fall of Man. There was much more lost than just a right standing with God. Our whole world was broken. God cursed the very ground so that we would have to work to eat. Our relationships with others were instantly tarnished as well. Adam and Eve could not relate to each other in the same way ever again. The very concept of marriage was ruined.


19 March 2012 ~ 1 Comment

How Passivity Destroys Marriages

It has been said that apathy is a silent killer. I like to think that passivity is apathy’s ugly twin sister. Together, the twins undermine God’s purpose for your marriage (and your life) by keeping you from waking up and seeing the war that we live in every day.

Jesus Christ came to destroy the works of the enemy, and if you are a Christian He has enlisted you, along with all of your resources (including your marriage, your children, and your career) in this purpose. The Bible is clear that every Christian person has a mission, and that this mission somehow involves both evangelism and discipleship. God has called you to reach the lost and to train His Church to do the same. The passive person will never work to fulfill this purpose, at least not seriously.

And yet this is not the only way in which apathy undermines marriage. Marriage takes work. If you don’t believe this than you have bought into the idea of the fairytale marriage. Sorry, but “happily ever after” is reserved for the next life. You can achieve a great deal of happiness in your marriage in this life, but that requires commitment and effort. Passivity is the antithesis to work.


16 March 2012 ~ 1 Comment

God’s Design For Masculinity and Femininity

What does it mean to be masculine or feminine? That is a foundational question to our identity as men and women, and one that has been under extreme attack over the past several generations. The definitions of womanhood, manhood, motherhood, fatherhood and marriage have been significantly altered by our culture to the point that many of us don’t even know how we were designed and what we were created to be. We have assumed that men and women are basically the same, and we have assumed that women should be more masculine and men should be more feminine and that it is a good thing to blur the lines between the genders and we are left with a lot of emotional/spiritual/sexual pain, confusion and great misunderstanding in our marriages and families – as well as a grave misunderstanding of God’s identity and love.


10 March 2012 ~ 1 Comment

Do You Understand the Amazing Power of Your Words?

On the way home from work today I was listening to KLOVE  Radio, which had Matthew West as a guest on the show. Matthew is a popular Christian singer/songwriter who is working on  project called “The Story Of Your Life”. This is actually the second year he’s done this.

For the project, Matthew has asked for people to send in their life stories to him. He will read these stories and turn several of them into songs that will go into an album.You can get the album from last year’s project here, if you’re interested.

What caught my attention is that Matthew was asked a question about what strikes him the most about the stories he is receiving. What he said was that many of the stories start with some kind of sense of betrayal or hurt caused by a parent, such as an abandonment, divorce or abuse.


02 March 2012 ~ 3 Comments

How to Build a Divorce Proof Marriage

Divorce. What are the thoughts that come to your mind when you hear the word? Do you look back with bitterness and regret at a marriage of yours that ended in divorce? Maybe you think of your parents and how their divorce impacted you? Or perhaps you think of how grateful you are that they managed to stick together. Perhaps you feel a sense of determination to not let it happen to you.


28 January 2012 ~ 16 Comments

How to Deal With an Emotionally Distant Husband

Do you have an emotionally distant husband? Does he often “check out” on you or refuse to talk to you? Or maybe he just doesn’t know how to connect emotionally? This is a common problem that many women face in their marriages. It might seem as if your husband doesn’t care about you or that he isn’t interested in you. Sometimes, you may feel like your suffocating under the emotional neglect. Some women even go so far as to say it feels as if their husbands hate them because of this problem.

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What can you do if you find yourself in this kind of situation? Is he really uninterested, or is it that he just doesn’t know how to relate in an emotional way? If so, how can you help him to come out of his protective shell without pushing him away? If I may, I would like to offer a man’s perspective on this important issue.


17 January 2012 ~ 1 Comment

Spiritual Warfare – What to do When Your Marriage Comes Under Attack

Spiritual warfare. For many, these words evoke strange and often frightening images in the mind’s eye. Dramatic displays of supernatural power, pots flying through the air, strange chants and rituals, holy water and sacramental oil are just a few of the images that come to mind. The truth is, these Hollywood versions of spiritual warfare are over dramatized to a large degree. True spiritual warfare is much simpler and much less frightening than this.

So what does it really look like to do spiritual battle? More importantly, when should you, as a married Christian person worry about it and how to you actually carry it out effectively? This article will answer those questions in a way that is easy to understand.


08 January 2012 ~ 0 Comments

You Have an Enemy – And it Isn’t Your Spouse

“For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.” (Eph 6:12, NLT)

Do you ever get that crazy feeling that your spouse is working against you? Conflict is a normal part of every marriage, but sometimes it can feel like all out war. Sometimes this can take the form of yelling, name calling, physical fighting, and worse things. Other times it can be much more subtle.


19 September 2011 ~ 0 Comments

Embracing God’s Vision For Your Marriage

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.(Jer 29:11, NIV)

Your marriage is meant to be great. It is meant to be something wonderful, something amazing. God’s intent is that your marriage would be full of hope, passion, joy, and companionship. More than that, your marriage is meant to be a shining example of God’s love for the whole world.


16 May 2011 ~ 0 Comments

Welcome to God’s Help For Marriage

Here at God’s Help for Marriage, we believe that God cares about you and your marriage. He wants your marriage to be a success. More than that, God has given you everything you need to be successful in your marriage.