To Write or Not to Write…That is the Question
Daniel Says: Hey everyone, it’s my pleasure to introduce my wife, Kelli. This is her first post for God’s Help For Marriage. Please give her a warm welcome.
I have been contemplating writing a blog for some time now, trying to think of a topic or whether or not I would even want to be a part of my husbands blog Gods Help for Marriage. I originally thought I would like to join his site to add a woman’s viewpoint since he kept getting opinionated comments from women about his controversial blogs. I have been hurt by some of the statements some of the women have made about my husband and our marriage. I thought by writing some posts on his site I could tell my side of the story and maybe ease the inquiring minds of these women who often times express concern for me.
The problem with all these thoughts comes down to the question, what is my motive? This is what I have been thinking about for the last few weeks. Is my motive to come to my husband’s rescue (although he doesn’t need me to save him) and defend my marriage, or is it to uplift marriage and what it is meant to be from God’s point of view.
My husband, Daniel and I share the same views on marriage, it was one of the first things that brought us together and something we have always agreed upon. I feel that like my husband, having a Godly marriage is a top priority and something I want to encourage and model for others. Godly marriage is something that I have always been passionate about and held up as a sacred blessing. As a young girl I knew I wanted to be married and as a young adult I sought out a man with my same values to join in union with.
Now as an older twenty something, with a devoted husband and two kids, the value of marriage is even greater to me. I want to uphold it, honor it and devote myself as best I can to my marriage and to helping others achieve what is only possible with God’s help. I also believe that through me joining with my husband in his cause, that we will grow together learning and sharing with each other the passions of our hearts. I will say that the main thing holding me back was my lack of education. When I read my husband’s blog and many others I am awed by the way they are written, I was and still am worried that I will not be able to be interesting. With my husband I have often lived by the phrase “if you can’t beat em, join em”. I did it with video games and I know that with Daniel’s help I may be able to conquer the world of blogs.
To sum things up (I’m sure this is breaking some literary rule or maybe it’s just cliché), but I would like to end by challenging everyone with something that challenges me very personally. In all my speech, whether it be written or spoken I would like to attempt to be uplifting, encouraging and positive. This is probably why writing a blog is most challenging to me, because in speech I tend to speak before I think. Writing something with meaning is much more difficult for me than speaking it although I need to work on speaking with more meaning. My husband has recently asked me to be more encouraging to help him through some self doubt and I plan on doing just that. I pray I am able to complete this challenge and incorporate kinder words for all into my life and also to be an encouragement to all.
Grace, Hope and Love
Welcome Kelli!
I say WRITE!! Write and share your side and maybe add the feminine perspective and I believe it may be helpful and minister to others who are struggling. I do suggest that you bear one thing in mind though–write to bring honor to God and for no other reason. And when you write, your job is not to “convince others” with your wise word choices and clever arguments. Nope your job is just to boldly declare the truth from the scriptures and allow God to renew those whom He will. Be bold–tell the truth–and honor God and you’ll be all good.